5 Hard Truths I Had To Swallow

Hi pretties! Hard truths are never nice to hear, but they are very necessary. I’ll be sharing 10 of those hard truths that I learned over my 30 years of existence.

The only person who can save you is yourself

This is an extremely hard truth I had to swallow. I faced it not only for myself but also in relationships. The only person who can save you is yourself. It took me a full 20 years to learn that nobody would be saving me. When my dad passed away, that lesson hit even harder. I am now working on becoming the person I want to be. This lesson does not only apply to yourself; it can apply to others. Countless times, I have tried to help people online, mainly by talking to them. Despite my attempts to help people, sometimes, the message just didn’t get through. That is when I learned that people who choose not to be helped only have themselves to blame. You can give someone many resources. But if they refuse to want help, they will not take it.

People do not care how you look or sound

I have severe social anxiety, to the point where it has made me agoraphobic at times. That is because I struggle with how people are going to perceive me. I often worry about how people will judge me. I had to swallow a very hard pill. My partner and the internet have hammered this lesson into my head many times. It is that people simply do not care how you look or act. They are too busy worrying about their own things to even notice you. If someone does notice you and makes fun of you, it is simply a problem they have to deal with. This has helped my social anxiety a little bit.

Money does not buy you happiness, but it can buy the things that bring happiness

Another hard pill I had to swallow is that money does not buy you happiness. It can buy things that bring you happiness, but it is not the sole provider of happiness. There is a lot of consumerism in today’s internet world. This is especially true on TikTok and Instagram. It is easy to fall into traps on social media. They convince you, stating, “You’re going to be happy if you buy this new Rhode lip balm.” They also suggest, “If you buy this iPad, your life will be much easier!”. Spoiler alert: buying new things will only make you happy for a few minutes. Then, the buzz of that high wears down. That is how the cycle of consumerism starts. I find it easier to be happy when I am distracted or experiencing new things.

Social media is just a highlights reel

This was another one of the hard truths that took me literal years to get down. When I first started my journey on social media in 2013-2014, all I saw were people living life. Some people were going to different countries every month. Others were getting a new car, PC, or whatnot. Below the surface, I was unaware of the lies and the social media iceberg. Some people were getting into massive amounts of debt trying to portray the perfect life. Others saved up for years trying to get that house, apartment, or car. A few girls even worked their butts off just to start a small business. It made me humbled to learn that not everything on social media is the truth.

You can’t compare your Chapter 1 to someone’s Chapter 365

This was the final hard truth I had to learn. At times on social media, I felt inadequate, wondering why I wasn’t good enough. It took me years to realize I was comparing my Chapter 1 to someone’s Chapter 365. That person probably worked years to get to where they are now, and I’ve just started my journey. Curating an audience and an account on Instagram takes years. Even on other platforms, it requires the same effort. I should not compare myself to others who have done the same thing forever.

What are some hard truths you had to swallow?

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